SLEEP PROBLEMS? A PROVEN WAY TO FALL ASLEEP!
Holistic doctor Andrew Weil says the following will put you to sleep IN ONE MINUTE!!! It's called the "4-7-8-" technique and is derived from yoga. Inhale for 4 seconds; hold your breath for 7 seconds; and exhale FORCEFULLY for 8 Repeat 3 times. With practice, Weil says, you'll be asleep! … [Read more...]
You (Or Someone You Know) Can Learn To Develop Optimism To Address Depression In Part
Do you worry a lot? Do you catastrophize --- expect worst results of a situation when it usually turns out to not be the case --- like I'll never find a job, or so-and-so will get into an auto accident if she drives in the snow, or "You know, it always happens to me that I get cheated"? Yes, sometimes the worst case scenario comes to pass. … [Read more...]
Resolving Division Of Labor Disagreements For Couples Who Live Together
First, address ways each partner can understand self and other as it relates to this topic: 1. Each make a list of who did these tasks in family-of-origin (or maybe someone was hired to do them): a. laundry b. grocery-shopping c. loading and unloading the dishwasher (or washing the dishes by hand) d. making the bed e. cleaning the … [Read more...]
Mother’s Day Thoughts
What most mothers want from their children is a showing of affection. A nice extra is an expression of appreciation. But most children take their mothers for granted. It’s just expected by them that parents supply needs and wants to their children. So all that immense time, effort, money, and sacrifice is something a mother rarely gets a ‘thank … [Read more...]
Suggestions For Couple Disagreements
Communication between couples vs arguments If you and/or your partner feel your frustration rising request a “time out” by saying something like, “I need to take 5 minutes off (or 10 minutes, if you prefer) so we can calm down” During the “time out” both should take a few deep, slow breaths, letting them out completely. While apart attempt … [Read more...]
Perfectionism — Sometimes a Problem for You or Someone Else You Know?
Do you, and maybe others, consider you a perfectionist, and does it sometimes cause you difficulties? Maybe someone else’s perfectionism is a problem for you (and, perhaps for themselves)? If you’re a brain surgeon please keep being perfectionistic about your work! But, some of us have had experiences where this trait has stood in the way of … [Read more...]
Some Thoughts on Men’s Mental Health
International Men's Day took place on November 19 this year -- but I think the topic of men's mental health is worth talking about all year round. Men are not all cut from one cloth. They vary enormously but one thing I’ve noticed in my practice is that most of the troubled ones who come in for counseling are ones who received a faulty message … [Read more...]
Unless You’re Perfect Should You Expect a Perfect Romantic Partner?
Most people, whether they know it or not expect their partner-in-love to be: The perfect parent of the opposite gender from themselves who they've conjured up in their imagination. (Pick the one that fits.) (Dad who makes them feel safe and cared for, ALWAYS listens attentively, gives them everything they want --- most likely not what your … [Read more...]
How Much Worrying is Healthy?
Worrying is a part of being human but sometimes it is overwhelming and paralyzes us. Here are some typical examples of why people worry: We can't help worrying about our health or the health of a loved one when the doctor has informed us that this is a serious condition. If our finances have been plunging and we have vital things we must … [Read more...]
Self-Help Suggestions For Anxiety and Depression
Most people already know about what is written below but at times may forget. These reminders are helpful for both anxiety AND depression. 1. Deep-breathing-a few deep, slow breaths 2. Relaxation apps on your phone - some are waves on the seashore or rain on the roof, some are progressive relaxation (“Your feet are getting heavy; your legs are … [Read more...]